For the most part, this does raise eyebrows for a few reasons. That is another trait of the narcissist, they can never accept blame and have to always turn it around on you. Finding friends can be a side benefit to pursuing people to date, but it is not why people are there, if they are being honest. I dumped the first two and instantly took down my profile for 3. He will have a way of turning any attempt to pin a negative on him into a finger pointing at someone else. I personaltely can only date one person at the time. From him checking his mobile messages from the dating site in front of me to being online I got that he was no longer interested and I was sorry we did not make the connection he was looking for.
You can see if he recently logged in. A zombie profile, back from the dead! The attention from online dating is just more food for the narcissist. But your relationship does suggest a level of patience and tolerance that far exceeds the norm. Better to say that you hid your account so no one can find it if challenged on this. I need to have a conversation. So he may not be a total loser.
His answer will reveal everything to you. The conviction behind your reasons for joining and your honesty with those you date. Please give some feedback with your survey answer. After all, he is the one who brought it up i the first place. So it is perfectly normal to not be commited in the first month you date someone. This happened to a friend of mine, who was unaware until I pointed it out to her. It's called hedging your bets, and there's nothing wrong with it this early in your relationship.
It was great meeting you and I wish you all the best. But when he logs on he can see that I logged on. Then once he won me he became distant. You might need to have friends on call. To hide it temporarily before your date knowing you plan on re-posting it when you get home. He wanted me to meet his sons, which I have.
At first, I thought it was strange, but I do know people personally who have made friends with online dating, but people exclusively looking for friendship should have that spelled out Does he? I also met a amazing guy online and depending on how busy i was, i liked to log in an read his profile or see his pictures, of course i made sure that he could not see that im checking out his profile. It will feel like, when challenged, he will twist the truth to spin any perception of him to a positive light. Now I just need to heal and its very difficult. My fiance forgot about his profile. I decided that whatever his problem was, that I would no longer make it my problem- and yes, I genuinely loved him, but enough is enough! So normally, I think hiding is the right choice. Should I take my profile down? But you never know until you take action.
Reading your story makes me sick. This is a case where deleting the profile is a better option, especially if the cause of the breakup was related to fidelity in any way. I do hate to be the one to burst your bubble, Barb. There are many dating sites but few that do not spam you to stay a member or keep your details in their data base to swell membership numbers. I too wanted to understand and make sense of things. In fact I said to him that I would now need a brain transplant to ever trust him and that much of the time we were together I have felt like I was on the spin cycle in a washing machine- no-one wants to feel this way. It is likely that he will never change.
If he suggested the exclusivity, i see no reason to distrust him. Be fair and above all else, have a conscience and empathy for the other person. If you two go out for a while and start getting serious, then you can worry about whether or not he's still looking. He just never did anything with it and thought that it would delete after a certain amount of inactivity. You don't know for sure, and this is where your angst can enter, center-stage. I suggest not taking offense to any of this - stuff just like this happens all the time in the dating world. He seemed to understand where I was coming from regarding him checking his messages but said that is meaningless and I should not care.
You don't expect him to take down his profile after one good date, do you? I was too trusting — I had a very busy life and had no desire to do investigations into anything. I took down my profile after several months yet she did not. If you are asking this question, congratulations! He will drop you like a hot cake for a girl like that! Just something to keep in mind…see some comments in for examples of the drama created. What is it that you want, and why? I want to print a copy for a scrapbook. Even if he straightens out with the online dating hell likely show his defiance in other ways — money, career decisions etc.
I sent him a message on the website that I was sorry as I completely misunderstood where this was going and said I get it. Like the pina colada song where they answer eachother personal ads. But that the whole relationship was off, perhaps from the beginning. I believe you are justified in thinking that this new relationship has expired. Taking down your profile as well as changing your Facebook relationship status can be a big deal and come along with 2-dimensional assumptions that could kill your relationship.